Relationship Killer

Ok folks, guess who’s bizaack! Lol. My next topic is a very sensitive one, so I will try to tread carefully so as not to offend anyone. This topic is the archenemy of a relationship: CHEATING!! *dun dun dun dun!* But what I want to know is, which would you deem worse: cheating physically, or cheating emotionally?? Now I know some people are going to say “cheating is cheating”, and you’re right. You’re also not the people that I want to talk to right now! (haha). No offense to anyone, like I previously mentioned, but I want some opinions on this particular subject. In general, and this is just my OPINION, I think women more with emotions, and men cheat more with the physical. Now before you go off about how you were done wrong,, let me say that this is what I feel in GENERAL. So I’m saying that’s the case for each man or each woman, just the majority of the population of cheaters.

Cheating emotionally, to me, is when you let someone else inside your heart. You are doing the same thing with the #2 that you are doing with #1. Taking trips, going out on dates, or even just cuddling up to watch a movie could be seen as forms of cheating emotionally. You start to develop genuine feelings, and perhaps love for this person. Now emotionally cheating could lead to a physical thing, but it’s not always a result. Sometimes a person is looking for someone to treat them the way they think their significant other should treat them, so they develop a bond with someone else who gives them that feeling. Now while I can understand the desire to feel wanted and loved, if you have to go out and get it from elsewhere, then you need to be elsewhere. 100%. If the person you are with isn’t doing what you would like for them to, then the first step is communication. Voice how you are feeling. That way, nobody has to become a mind reader. I think the lack of communication is a big factor to someone looking for love elsewhere. Some people, especially guys, won’t pick up on signs that their mate is in need of more. They just tend to think that the person is happy with what they are doing. Now If you are content with getting 60% from one person & 40% from another, then I don’t know what to tell you. If you splitting your 100% between your sig other and multiple people, then you have no time to read this blog. Lol.

We all know what cheating physically is. Everybody has been involved with this somehow, whether on the giving or receiving end, or knowing a friend that’s on one end. Some people will say that physical cheating triumphs over emotional cheating as the worst. You become the scum of the earth if this happens. I have a question though. Which is more valuable, your genatalia or your heart?? Just food for thought. People have different reasons for physcial involvement with someone. With emotional, I think it’s general a lack of one thing that they find in someone else. With physical, I think multiple factors can play a part. The way a person looks is probably one of the main factors. You set your eyes on someone that you are attracted to and then begin a game of flirt. Or someone mind blowing may approach you, and you don’t want to just reject them all the way. So you hold on to them as a friend but your curiosity gets the best of you. Everybody have their own excuses for cheating and they come in all shapes and sizes. Talking about the excuses, people!! Lol. The other factor that I think plays an equal part is lack of satisfaction. Your bedroom adventures are about as exciting as watching paint dry. You consider your mate to be your perfect match, except for when it comes to your sexual encounters. Everybody want that person that will come in and take them to cloud 9. But the truth is, everybody’s not able to do that. Therefore, we go back to that “C” word: communication. To maintain a healthy relationship outside and inside the bedroom, this word should be cemented in your vocabulary. Talking to your partner might not turn them into a sensation, but it can help them make YOU feel sensational. Once both of you get on the same page, the connection will get stronger. Now you not out looking for something better, and they are not out looking for someone not as experienced. Lol.

A common phrase I hear people say is, “cheaters can’t change”. I didn’t know cheating was an incurable disease. I always thought it was a willful mistake that a human makes. Notice I said mistake, because a lot of people will see the error in their judgment. Some before it’s too late, others not so lucky. If a person on drugs can decide to quit, what makes a person think that a cheater isn’t capable of reform. At the same time I’m not saying that you should accept a person’s doggish ways with hopes that they will eventually change. You have to just use good judgment on who you allow into your life, especially on a long-term basis. I hate to see a good person settling for someone and then they end up cheating because they aren’t getting what they desire out of the relationship. Now they are no better than the person they are with. Or they stay with someone that’s cheating, and since they don’t want to look like a fool, they cheat too until their mate “decides to be faithful”. I know it’s cliché, but 2 wrongs don’t make a right. Nor will it make a healthy relationship.