Looking For Love

Have you ever seen an elderly couple and they look like they are just as much in love now as when they were youth? Have you ever seen this and wondered to yourself "where is that love at, and why haven't I experienced it yet?" Nowadays finding love that will stand the test of time seems to be eons away. I look at my parents and I am amazed by their strength, their consistency, and more importantly, their love for each other. They have shown me time and time again that love is not just a word, that marriage is a commitment, and that with God all things are possible.

Many times we want that feeling so bad that at the slightest tingle, we are quick to label that person "the one". Never mind that the tingle you felt inside could have been God pinging you, saying "RUN!". Nah, we do what we can to make sure everything goes right with this person. And the more it seems like it's not going to work, we throw another batch of coal onto the fire, hoping to spark something else in the relationship. But sometimes you have to step back and observe the situation from a third-person point of view. Maybe the reason that there is no fire is because the oxygen is gone. Meaning, the life is sucked out of the relationship and you need to move on. It's dead. Maybe it wasn't meant to be in the first place and no matter how much coal you throw on that fire, it's not going to turn into an inferno. It's dead. Or maybe, just maybe, you being with that person was for a reason, and now it's time to take what you learned and move on. The flame provided heat through the winter season, but now it's time to continue on your destiny. IT'S DEAD! Sometimes we don't see it as such though and keep delaying what is in store for us until we are so fed up with failed relationships that shouldn't have been in the first place, that we have now grown cold to someone's feelings and miss out on the blessing that is right before us. It may be genuinely our time to love, but we so focused on what didn't happen with the past that we not even focused on our future.

Love should never be something that is forced. Love should never be something you are looking for or seeking. Love should never even be something that you are waiting on. When it's time for love, your love, to show itself, it will. If you prepare yourself for it mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, then you have nothing to worry about. You too will be able to show a young person what it's like to be an elderly couple and still in love with the one that was meant for you.